Simone Mariposa does the same thing every morning that we all do. She puts on clothes. For many of us, it’s not that big of a decision. We grab a pair of pants, a shirt, some shoes. If it’s chilly we’ll grab a jacket. Sure, there are things to be considered. Does this shirt go with this tie? Do these heels go with the dress? The less fashion savvy among us, we’ll probably end up making a few blunders here and there. But most of us will not be subjected to the ridicule or scorn that Simone Mariposa will be.
Simone is a large confident woman. And when she walks down the street, dressed in whatever the fuck she chooses, littler-bodied and littler-minded people will be aghast that she would dare to wear the things that she wears. See, there’s this idea going around that you have to look a certain way and if you don’t look that way, then you shouldn’t wear certain clothes. Why? Because ignorance.
Everyone has their preferences and that’s fine. But when you start assuming that your individual preferences are standards by which everyone else should be judged, we have a problem. Let’s agree to call bullshit and get on with the interview of Simone Mariposa, the woman who has created the hashtag #WeWearWhatWeWant to silence some of these haters and give a showcase to some beautiful women.
Morpheus: What caused you to create the #WeWearWhatWeWant hashtag/movement?
Simone: I read a story on my timeline from a woman, @thesoulasylum on Twitter, about seeing a plus size girl on the street being ridiculed for making an unconventional choice, and how common that was for plus size women. So, I wanted a trend to focus on fat girls in “socially unacceptable” outfits, and still looking great in them.
In your opinion, what is the reason women are so critical of their looks?
Our society has really unrealistic and oppressive beauty standards. Women in the media are nipped, tucked, and digitally altered to look perfect, and women strive their hardest to look like that, and it’s really impossible.
On Twitter, you’re Wise Young Fattie. What is your own relationship with the word “fat” and how has that changed or not changed over the years?
The word used to be a curse word for me. Any time I would hear the word being thrown in my direction, I would break down into tears. I was so sensitive about my weight growing up, and those words really hurt me. But now, I’ve taken ownership of it. The word fat just describes me. It doesn’t define me. It isn’t an insult. It isn’t synonymous with ugly. It’s a word, and I’m proud of it.
What is the biggest misconception that your haters have?
(Here’s the link if you’re curious. There are so many, but the main one is that fat girls are desperate for attention and they don’t love themselves. There are many women who are proud of their bodies.
And, little do they know, for me, begging for attention is something I’ve never had to do.
I was always very outspoken and strong willed, so there was always a degree of confidence in myself. But, in terms of my body, I was extremely insecure. I had my big “aha” moment in high school. I went to a performing arts school. I’m an actress and singer first. I got familiar with being on stage in front of an audience, sharing my talents, using my body as a vessel for my gifts, and I had to let go of the fear and self doubt of being judged by my body, and just be free. Since then, my confidence has been on a study gradual rise, and it’s safe to say that I have reached a whole new level of self assurance.
I think people assume that everyone likes the typical “American beauty” look, and the only way to be sexy, dress sexy, and feel sexy is if you have a flat stomach. However, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are so many definitions of what people find attractive, and it varies from person to person. There’s no ONE type of beautiful.
What are your future goals for yourself as well as your #WeWearWhatWeWant movement?